A couple months back, we witnessed the story of little Amanda Todd and all over our country we gave our heart to this little girl. If your don't know Amanda Todd is a little teenage girl who liked to show off her goodies online. When shit got real, she couldn't stand the pressure and moved schools yet still posting shit online. Once the problem followed her to different schools and through online bullying she felt she had no other choice but to kill herself.Now the US is going into hysteria about this little underage model but don't you guys think, at least fora second, that maybe she brought this upon herself? I know I'll be stepping on toes about this, but it has to be said. Maybe as a society we focus on things that we tell our kids not to do yet we do them. For example, if you have a little baby girl and you tell her not to show her body and cross her legs when sitting and all that, then you go out showing your body every chance you get, what do you think she will do? Don't be mad at the little girl be mad at yourself for setting that example.
Back to bullying. This girl felt as if the bullys were around and the only escape was death. Those people who bullied her were relentless and did need to stop what they were doing. But isn't that a sad reality that we face? Growing up we see little kids speaking their mind, we usually don't likk to hear it ckuz its true so we tell them to "be nice". As they get older and into school they become more open about their opinions and will start letting people know. Again this is still not bullying. Then they get into middle and high school and suddenly that honesty turns into bullying. Maybe that's an issue you want to address to the adults rather then the children.The kids model after what we do. If we say "don't say anything unless its something nice" then turn around and cuss someone out they will do the same. If they see you being honest and follow after your steps maybe you should teach "time and place" conversations now.
To me bullying is a load of crap. I understand I'm more comfortable with myself then others may be but to take your own life for the satisfaction of others is besides me. That story really made me feel more anger at society then the bullys themselves. They simply modeled of what their elders are teaching them.
To me those kids do deserve to be punished, ONLY BECAUSE THEIR OWN PARENTS ENCOURAGED THE BEHAVIOR. there are many instances of bullying that occurs everyday and i think we need to address the parents and not the children. the children behavior can be fixed if we learn how to stop the lying.
RIP Amanda Todd
I agree, the person who RAISED them should of taught these "bullies" more manners, seriously. A lot of kids are too spoiled. Personally, i didnt call them bullies with my case, but people who just felt the need to point out my flaws. im a junior now and hs but shit in middle school i was literally close to killing myself because of this. By parents raised me so good, mannered and all i am, and everyday i would go to school, being the coo person that i am, and every single day someone just had to point out a flaw
ReplyDeleteand honestly those words got to me, and yeah people say words are just words but everyday they get to you ha. and so many times i conteplated my life... and i just feel like thats something a middle schooler shouldnt have to go through. And the fact that i kept all my DEPRESSION to myself.I still remember this one day in the shower when i almost killed myself. and im open about this because i want anyone to know that shit gets better. Im a junior and accomplished so much but i cant help but to think ... what if i actually did kill myself... and speaking of ... i feel for Freddy, i know what it feels like being that low. And it kills me that he had to go like this
ReplyDeletebut while i see tweets and such things on how people were so suprised of his death, i just sat there thinking, why am i not surprised ... because i know what its like to hide feelings, and i know how long hiding feelings is capable of lasting ... cause with me i hid my emotions and problems for years, and still do, so when people didnt see his problems, that doesnt mean they were there. i just wished that somebody asked him how he was feeling, like how he was REALLY feeling. when i look at freddys death, i automatically see myself, as weird as that sounds, and plz dont think my ass is crazy haha, well but because that could have been me. and i myself never thought my death would bother anyone ... but looking at freddy, i dont even know him personally, and im really sad like damn, its a fucked up feeling in my gut to see someone go like this
ReplyDeletethanks for sharing that. i dont know what it must be like to get that close. But i have seen people and met people who have been. Even in school if you just look at them, they have that look. That look that longs just for positive attention. I'm sorry you had you to go through that. So many people are just like you, being pointed out for flaws. But those things shouldn't define us. As crazy as it sounds I was picked on too. Only I was picked on for looking much older than I actually am. No it never got to the point of suicide but it got to the point where I didn't feel like going out all the time, ckuz I know someone will bring it up. Its a sad reality that we face everyday, whether its a young middle school girl, a high school teenager, or even internet sensation. And I agree with you, many people don't talk to people about whats going on, and that needs to change before something else bad happens. Thats part of the reason I created this blog. So I can get things off of my mind without feeling the burden of putting everything on someone else. I think everyone juss needs that 1 person to go to, when times are rough and you need a shoulder. In wish to reach every and any person I can, so if they ever need that someone, I can be that person. Its killing me inside to lose another loved one but I gotta push on. That is what keeps me going, the thought that there's always tomorrow and I don't know what it might bring. I hope you have found that 1 thing that you can always turn to and if not i pray you find that. If you don't want to look far you can rely on me to be your strength.
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